Why Don’t I Go on Dates? :(

 This has got to be the most asked question among singles, but mostly by girls, am I right? Yeah…I think so. I am sure that guys have thought this as well! This can be a very dangerous question. This can lead to many other questions, most common one being “What is wrong with me?” I am here to tell you…there is NOTHING wrong with you! This goes straight into finding your single identity. If you know who you are you know what your flaws, then you are well on the road to being ready for “the guy” or “the girl” but NEVER think that a guy or girl doesn’t want to date you because of those flaws. (Whisper) *they have plenty of their own* 😉

There are so many different reasons that you might not be going on dates. Maybe, you aren’t putting yourself out there enough. Dating is a numbers game. The more that you put yourself out there, the more of a chance that you will have of finding someone great. You will also find that you are going to find more heartache, rejection, and awkward situations, but this all comes with the territory. I think this is the thing that we have become afraid of in our generation… rejection. There is nothing wrong with rejection at all. It is a healthy to experience occasionally. Isn’t is worth it, if you find someone that is perfect for you?

I can’t say that not putting yourself out there is the only reason that you might not be dating. The situation for guys and girls is different. You could be going out with your friends every night and meeting new people, and you are on every online dating sight and no results are coming from it. I think that all of us have run into this at some point. The most important thing to remember is to never give up! Situations can be difficult, but you can’t give up. If you want to find someone then put in the effort.

You will notice that there are two other tabs on the home page here. What Guys Need to Know and What Girls Need to Know. I will not pretend to know what guys feel or think about dating. I have done quite a bit of asking guys out on dates. I am familiar with that kind of rejection as well. That still doesn’t change that I just can’t relate as well.I know fantastic guys that are strangely unable to find love right now. I have asked them for help with advice to fill in where I can’t 😉 The advice that I have for girls will include what guys would like girls to know, but mostly on what we can do to help the guys along. We have lost site of how to be women and kind. So, let’s help them remember what it is like to feel like a gentleman huh?

Basically, what I am tell you is that you can’t give up. There is nothing wrong with you at all that should keep you from dating or putting yourself out there. You will lose faith… a lot, so have I. Here is a place that will hopefully give you a place to gain your motivation and peace about where you are and who you are.

I hope that the insight that I give will help you gauge your situation. What do you need to do to improve your situation? You have more control over your situation than you think. So, get out there! There is nothing to lose, only to gain. I would love to hear about what you want! Please leave comments, maybe I will post about it! Love yous!


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