I have a question for you. Why is it that when we have feelings for someone, we don’t want them to know about it? This has been the case for as long as I can remember. I remember being young, in junior high and high school, and there would be guys that I thought were cute. I thought it would be the end of the world if they ever found out about my feelings for them. As I see it, this is normal and just about all of us feel this way.
I had a conversation with one of my friends a couple weeks ago. He was talking to me about this girl that he had been interested in for a while. Something that he said made me so sad. He said that he was embarrassed to have feelings for her. I immediately told him “NEVER be embarrassed to have feelings for someone!”. This shouldn’t be embarrassing,this is something that we are all looking for. We want to have that connection.It is only normal, and to hide those feelings is hiding who we are. Someone that wants to be wanted and to love someone. I am guilty of doing this. Only recently, I have tried not to let those feelings get in the way of me trying.It has been so liberating! Honestly to not be afraid of letting someone know about how I feel; I feel free and able to let go. Especially when things don’t workout the way that I initially wanted.
There was someone in my workplace that multiple people had tried to set me up with. I denied it at first, just thinking “he probably won’t be interested, in me.” One person asked me “what are you afraid of?” I was afraid of losing a chance that I wasn’t even going to take. It didn’t make sense, but it does make since, strangely. After a while of thinking about it, someone else said that we should date. I had decided to give it a chance. I ended up being right about him not being interested, but we became friends. It was good that we became friends. This just glossed over after I expressed and interest. We were honest and carried on with our lives. It was nice to know that I had done everything in my power and I didn’t miss out on anything.
Maybe we should try and change the “norm”. What you all think about being okay with having feelings for someone? What of we were ok sharing those feelings? Is that so bad if dating was like that? I know that this won’t change overnight, but why not try it out? There really is nothing to lose. You may think that there is but think about it. The guy or girl that you have been interested in. You don’t have them, so you have nothing to lose, but you have everything to gain. What if you sharing the feelings that you have for someone, got you the person that you would like to be with? What if by telling that person that you were interested made all the difference?
When we stifle our feelings and natural emotions, they become underdeveloped. Allow yourself to feel the emotions that are natural and that you should never feel ashamed to have.Let’s not be ashamed or embarrassed to have feelings for someone. Embrace it and see what happens. Do everything that you can do, and hey, you might just get lucky to fine the person of your dreams!
Remember the one factor in all of this. If you find yourself in the situation of expressing your feelings. REMEMBER… the other has their own feelings and desires the effect their choices. If they don’t choose you, it has nothing to do with you. There will be more on this to come! 🙂 I would like to hear your stories!