How many of us have felt at one point of another have felt that we don’t have any control over our dating life? I know that is a resounding “YES!” This is something that I have been thinking about for a few months, now that the holiday’s are over. We all get those questions during the holiday’s. “Are you dating anyone?”, “Are you going on dates?”, “Why not?”, etc. It can be a hard time of year, but once we realize something very important, things will change for the better. YOU HAVE A CHOICE!
Most girls that I have talked to about dating all have this idea that we don’t have as much of a choice when it comes to dating. I am here to tell you that you do have a choice. I was that girl at one point. I took responsibility. I have been listening to some dating podcasts from people I know and people that I don’t know. Things that are said on these podcasts vary depending on the person, but one thing that has remained consistent is that if we want our dating life to change then we need to make the decision to choice.
Let me give you an example, one day a few weeks ago, I was trying to go to an early morning class. When I woke up that morning the roads were covered in snow, and I knew that there we little chance of me getting to that class on time. As I was driving I figured that by the time I got there, there would be no point on going to class. So I had just enough time (or so I thought) to pick up some breakfast and a hot chocolate before I had to be to work. I put Starbucks into my phone and I started driving. When I got to Starbucks, I ordered a Hot Chocolate and I was given a coffee. I didn’t have time to take it back, so I continued. As I was driving towards work the roads from the weather made traffic move at a painfully slow pace. I was unfortunately, late for work that day.
You may be curious about how this story applies. The reason that is applies is that this morning that I was so frustrated at the fact that the choices that I made didn’t result in the outcomes that I wanted, but the thing that I realized is that I had a choice in how I reacted. I had a choice, isn’t that what we are talking about here. You will ALWAYS wanted. When it comes to dating, you have a choice. Whether nothing is happening or you are going on a ton of dates. Make your choice now, how will you respond, will you complain and gripe about not finding the right person or will you get out there and have fun and be you. Be happy with who you are! That is all that there is to it.